What is Domestic Violence?

A systematic pattern of abusive behaviors (psychological, sexual, physical, and/or economic) used by an individual to establish power and control over his/her partner. The abuser is able to maintain power and control through the fear and intimidation of his/her partner.

Domestic Violence - Dating, Spouse or Partner

• If an attack is in progress or about to happen, call 911. Protect yourself, children and pets
• If you are in a violent relationship and are afraid, ask neighbors or nearby friends to call the police if they hear violence - you may not be able to call. You may also want to teach your children to phone 911 or get help if it will not seriously endanger them.
• Wichita Police policy is to arrest someone if they find that an assault has occurred.
• Go to a hospital emergency room if injuries are severe. Ask them to document injuries. Ask a nurse to call the YWCA Women’s Crisis Center/Safehouse advocate to provide support and help you with immediate safety planning.
• YWCA Wichita can provide cell phones programmed to dial directly to 911.
• Consider a domestic violence Protection From Abuse Order. YWCA advocates can assist you with this decision. Call the 24-hour hotline, 267-7233 to speak to an advocate.
• Document injuries with photos and witnesses. You may need them later.
• If you need support or want to leave an abusive relationship, call the 24-hour hotline to speak with an advocate to discuss the options available to you.

Personal Safety - Staying Safe in an Abusive Relationship

• Keep a cell phone available to call 911. (You can get one free at YWCA Women’s Crisis Center)
• Be aware of your surroundings. Stay in rooms with more than one exit so you do not get trapped in a room. Stay out of rooms with any sharp objects.
• Use your judgment and intuition.
• Keep an emergency bag with supplies in case you have to leave quickly. Call the YWCA Women’s Crisis Center for suggestions on what you need in your emergency bag.
• Learn the signs of violence & get out when you see tension building.
• Remove all sharp objects from countertops and line of sight.
• Let trusted friends, family and work know what is happening so they can be there for you.

Staying Safe Leaving an Abusive Relationship

• Only let trusted friends & family know your plan.
• If you are working, talk to security or your boss about the situation, so they can help you develop a work safety plan.
• Gather and make copies of important documents. (Essential Document list available from a YWCA Women’s Crisis Center Advocate).
• Take your children. If you have pets, please call the YWCA Women’s Crisis Center for details on our Pets in Crisis program.
• Rehearse your departure.
• Plan your escape route.
• Remember that no one deserves to be abused!